22 Things I’ve Learned About Fashion In 22 Years

Have you ever had a special event or occasion come up where you want to look really good so you allow plenty of time to plan your outfit and get ready? I have. Have you ever thought that in the end you actually look better when you get ready in 20 minutes rather than two hours? I have- it’s all about the over-thinking.

Usually when I do an outfit post I’ll roughly plan what I’m going to wear the day before so that I’m not in a huge rush in the morning, but last week was completely different. I decided to explore the historic Como House & Gardens and spontaneously take some outfit photos, and it wasn’t really until we started snapping away that I realised how little thought I’d put into my hair, outfit and makeup that day- yet I felt so comfortable.

I used to think that having extra time and putting extra effort into your outfit was always a good thing, but honestly sometimes that approach can completely backfire and before you know it you’re wearing an outfit that doesn’t even feel like you. It got me thinking about all of the other fashion and style ‘lessons’ that I’ve learnt over the years, so I thought I’d share my wisdom:

PS, it’s not really wisdom.



1. Clothes can really affect your confidence, so wear outfits that feels like ‘you.’


2. Stripes are never going out of style, feel free to invest.


3. Some styles of clothing will just never suit me, no matter how hard I try to pull a Tim Gunn and ‘make it work.’



4. It’s perfectly fine to not be interested in any fashion trends.


5. It’s perfectly fine to be interested in any and all fashion trends.
6. Oversized clothes are the best thing since sliced bread.



7. If you don’t like what someone else is wearing, keep it to yourself and don’t judge them.
8. If you do like what someone else is wearing, tell them! Spread the love. 
9. ‘Spanx’ must have been conceived as some kind of modern torture device.
10. Don’t wear anything you don’t feel comfortable in or anything that needs constant adjusting. It’s not worth it.



11. You can never own too many bags.


12. You can never own too many shoes.


13. You can never own too many coats.
14. Don’t trust clothing sizes or let them worry you, just go by the fit.



15. Don’t be afraid to try something different, even if it’s not in line with your usual style.
16. If your height or weight changes considerably, buy new clothes rather than trying to make the old ones work.


17. Don’t ever buy the same thing as someone and then compare what it looks like on you vs. them.


18. ‘Sale’ is a magical world that makes you buy things you never would’ve wanted in the first place.



19. Don’t only shop at the same stores over and over again, they’re not going anywhere.


20. If someone compliments your outfit, take the compliment.


21. Instagram, blogs and magazines are brilliant fashion and style inspiration sources.


22. Don’t take fashion/personal style too seriously, let yourself enjoy it.


Trench coat: ASOS
Dress: Zara
Boots: Kurt Geiger
Sunglasses: Retro Super Future



  • such a cute post. I love dressing a certain way and sometimes people just don't like it and it's hard not to be affected by what other people comment on what you wear. I just keep telling myself that I'm dressing up for me and not anyone else, so if no one else likes it, then whatever! 🙂


    • That's probably the best thing I've heard all day, I couldn't agree more! In the end it's you who's wearing the clothes, so it's you who should be happy with them 🙂

  • Love this 🙂 Your style looks really effortless & knowing that it was makes it seem even more so ! I personally can't wait for winter to get here soon so i can indulge my love of coats, beanies and long sleeves
    Love & Light, Lauren

    • I'm the exact same, I've always preferred winter fashion over any other season. Bring on the coats and boots I say!

  • I love this post 🙂 I think it's one of my favourites! And you look stunning as always in those awesome photos.
    There are so many points here that I could do with being reminded, especially number 10 about not buying something that needs to be constantly adjusted!

    • Thank you so much Phoebe, you always leave such lovely comments 🙂

      Number 10 is a big one for me as well, sometimes if I really like the style of something it can be so tempting to just wear it anyway, even if it's not really the right cut or fit.

  • You are killing this look and I am in love with those sunglasses. This post feels so fresh and spring to me.

    Chelsey | http://www.chelseythornton.com

  • This was such a fun post! I loved the trench you are wearing and how you turned this fashion post into something creative and fun.

    • Thank you so much Serein. It's always a little daunting trying out a different kind of a post so it's nice to hear feedback 🙂

  • so in love with your fab coat, great look

    • Thanks Carrie, I've been getting a tonne of use out of this coat recently.

  • I absolutely love this post! And you're so right, when you don't put much thought into an outfit, it usually looks super great! I'm with you on the bags, I have way too many bags in my collection but that's fine!


    • Thanks Ashley, I'm really happy you loved this post 🙂

      I feel like I have such a soft spot for bags, I mean I love shoes too but bags…there's just something about them!

  • Great post ! I totally agree we can never own too many bags !
    Alexandra xx

  • Found myself nodding along with every single one of these points, especially about oversized clothes…that may or may not belong to our other halves! x

    Always, Alice

    • I shudder to think back to the days where I used to wear tight fitted clothing…uh, no thanks. Nowadays I'm all about the oversized 😉

  • I have WAY too many dresses. Used to think that there is no suchthing as too much, but I have so many I actually struggle to wear each spring dress once during springtime etc 🙂 Be careful!

    • I own barely no dresses because I hardly ever wear them so I don't think that'll be a problem for me! 🙂

  • Okay, I'm slightly obsessed with this outfit and all your photos. You look STUNNING. Also, great insight. Love those 22 bits of knowledge. Thanks for sharing! 🙂


    • Wow thank you so so much! So happy to hear you liked this post and the photos especially 🙂

  • The trench coat with stripes is such a beautiful, classic pairing! So many great insights about fashion and style, too. Reading this I found myself going "True. Yes. Yes. So true!" 🙂

    • I love that so many people seem to be on the same page as me, and you definitely can't go wrong with stripes and a trench I say 🙂

  • I believe every single one of these points, so perfect! Also I am all for oversized stripes, and anything stripes, stripes are good, stripes are great! ^.^

    • Exactly! That may or may not be why 80% of my wardrobe consists of striped pieces…

  • I can definitely relate to a lot of these! Especially sales. All logic goes out the window and I end up with pieces I wear once and then bury in the back of my closet! 🙂

    Kate | themintedblog.com

    • I shamefully bought this blue fringed crop top on sale a year ago and I'm still thinking about what a waste of money it was to this day, even though it's long gone. I mean fringed and bright blue…what was I thinking? haha

  • This is such a lovely post and yes girl you are killing your outfit!!

    Christina ♡ from Okay Christina

  • yes on stripes and over sized clothing! love your wisdom =o)


  • Did someone say oversized clothes? That's my life haha!
    Charlotte // http://www.charlottespicks.com

    • Me too! Once you realise how comfortable oversized clothes are I feel like there's no going back.

  • I love this post!!! New clothes and feeling in the loop fashion wise makes me more confident. But I agree with the sizing, in one shop I fit into size 8, in another I'll be lucky if a size 10 fits! Too many times have I been upset over poor sizing!

    a life of a charlotte

    • I know exactly what you mean, that used to happen to me all the time. It's the same with pyjamas for me as well, I literally own from XS to XL!

  • This is a very good post! I actually learned a lot! 😀 These fashion tips are very useful.


  • These are very lovely pictures indeed, and I love that effortless and simple look on you! And I actually agree with you on all 25 facts, especially with the "you can never have too many shoes/bags/coats" thing, haha. These 3 things are my shopping priorities!

    Loved reading this.

    xx Stefanie

    • Same with me! Some people are all about dresses and skirts but I'm a sucker for bags, coats and shoes 🙂

  • No 14 is very important I think. The minute you stop stressing over your dress size is the moment you find peace. Women's sizing system is so fickle, there's absolutely no reason to worry about it. Just wear what makes you feel your best. Great positive tips there!


    • I couldn't agree more Athena, worrying about changes in sizing from store to store is such a waste of valuable time and energy.

  • You've listed some really great points here (also, I had no idea we were the same age!). I particularly like your point on not necessarily needing to follow trends, as well as not always taking notice on clothing sizes – they vary from shop to shop, after all!

    Gabrielle | A Glass Of Ice

    • I just turned 22 last week actually, I had no idea we were the same age either 🙂

      Thanks Gabrielle, I know for myself when I was growing up I felt a lot of pressure to follow trends but now that I'm older (and wiser?) I much prefer to just wear what I feel comfortable in. I think that's always the best thing to do.

  • I am so in love with your sunglasses! xx

    Gemma ♥ Miss Makeup Magpie

  • You are looking incredibly chic girlfran! I'm loving that neutral coat and how you've paired it with a striped staple. I'm seriously loving your blog!

    The Blonde Silhouette

  • Lovely post! Happy Birthday ^_^

    Laila from Townhouse Palette

  • I simply loved this post and you have answered some of my unasked question. You are absolutely correct in the first paragraph. I loved your look as you look so chic. 🙂

    Chaste & Beautiful

  • I've accepted there are some trends I can never ever pull off, and I'm okay with it. Also, I love stripes. Great post!

    Nereyda│ This Girl Is Obsessed

    • Me too, as much as I love some trends they just don't work for me!

  • Beautiful photos! I think it's such a fine line between stepping out of your comfort zone and dressing to suit yourself. I'm still experimenting with my style actually but it's good fun! BRB going to go off and buy some stripes! 😛

    Sally – DiagonSally

    • haha enjoy Sally! I wish I could say that I won't be buying anymore stripes but that's probably a lie 😉

  • Love this outfit, so effortlessly chic! I definitely live by a lot of these rules when it comes to style, my favourites are that even if something is on trend it just might not suit you! I love how t-shirt dresses look on others but I know that they just don't suit my body type! I do need to remind myself of that every time I see a cute one in store, however…

    Ash / The Beauty Collection

    • Thanks so much Ash 🙂

      Dresses in general are a tough one for me. I love them on other people but when it comes to me wearing dresses…I feel like they always look a little weird :

  • Such a great post <3 Really enjoyed reading these points!

    Harriet | http://www.harrietpattison.com

  • I am obsessed with stripes, I have way too many striped tops but you can't never have enough right. I love this outfit, again you can never go wrong with stripes.

    The Beauty Load

  • These are some gorgeous images, really superb quality too!

    Sheena Sreekeessoon

  • What a lovely outfit, so effortless. Sometimes a spontaneous shoot is better than some of the most thought out ones. xx

    Tiffany Tales – A British Beauty & Lifestyle Blog

    • I agree, I think I might start planning my outfit posts a lot less actually!

  • I completely agree with you! Sometimes when I literally throw anything on, I'll think 'why didn't I wear this for a style post?' I think that like you said, it's definitely to do with over-thinking things, which I do for basically everything in life lol. Your point about never having too many coats, is the single quote that I live by haha. Loved this post lots and your look is absolutely stunning.:)

    http://www.youtube.com/veebzboo – Trying American Candy with my Boyfriend

    • Thank you! It makes me really happy to hear that you liked this post 🙂

      Don't worry I'm the exact same, I'm forever over-thinking pretty much every aspect of my life.

  • What a great post! I can definitely relate to a few of these and have sometimes tried to dress how people think I should. I stopped doing that ages ago and recently tried a look that I would never have done before, but I loved it. I dress for me and if people don't like it then that's OK. You look lovely and the outfit looks great. Amazing photos 🙂
    Sharon from rosieloveslife.blogspot.com

    • I so agree with everything you said Sharon. I think once you start to feel comfortable just dressing for yourself, everything else fashion-wise becomes a whole lot easier.

  • Great points you've got there girlie. For no.20, I need to learn how to take a compliments because there is always an awkward atmosphere clouding my words haha! I do say thank you but the facial expression tends to 'muscle' up haha x

    Real Life Nerd

    • That's something I'm trying to work on as well, I'm usually pretty bad at just accepting compliments.

  • Great outfit! I love your outfit and style! you look gorgeous 🙂 Such a great outfit inspiration 🙂

    xx Jamie| With Love, Jamie

  • This was such an interesting read, thanks for sharing 🙂 I love your photos here! x


  • Thanks for the tips! You are so right 🙂 your outfit looks amazing too!

  • I love these little points you've made here and I agree with absolutely all of them! When it comes to fashion I used to always want to follow the latest trends but now that I've really discovered my personal style, I like to take inspiration from everywhere 🙂



    http://www.anjelique.com.au | snapchat: anjeliquetv

    • I try to do the same. I think trends are great and can be really fun to experiment with but long term they just don't tend to be for me.

  • I absolutely love this outfit! I always like to dress quite simply because I feel it looks a lot more effortless and I just feel so much more comfortable, and this outfit is right up my street, I love stripes and trench coats! I agree with all your points too, especially 1, 2, 11 and 18 – I always end up buying things in the sale that I really don't need… nowadays I try to remember to ask myself 'Would you want to buy this if it was full price?' If it's a no then I know it's not worth it!
    Brigitte x

    brigittehayley.com | youtube.com/brigittehayley

    • Over the last few years I've come to the same conclusion, I actually feel so comfortable dressing quite simply as well nowadays 🙂

      I try to ask myself that as well, either that or I just try to avoid sales in general!

  • I've never been one to follow trends or be heavily interested in fashion and I've always felt bad for it! It's only now that I'm learning to realise it's okay to wear jeans and a t-shirt/jumper most days if I want to! 🙂 lovely post, the outfit is gorgeous! xxx

    • That's so good that you feel comfortable just dressing however you want now 🙂

  • I love your style – so classic and chic! 🙂
    Ambar | Her Little Loves

  • Lovely post, dear! .x


  • i agree that u don't have to agree with fashion trends. not every trend needs to be followed and always stick true to your own personal style but also don't be too afraid to branch out and try new things x


  • Such a cute post!! Your photos are always so lovely. You look fab.

    Mel | http://www.thegossipdarling.com

  • Oh my gosh, I was at the Como last week too! I definitely want to go back and take photos. I agree with you on every point, especially point number 6 hehe. 😉
    Yours Truly, NY

    • It's so beautiful up there isn't it? I felt like practically everything was a photo op!

      Number 6 is probably one of my favourite points as well 😉

  • Wise words 😉 I also own way too many coats, they go with everything
    Nati xx

    • They really do, my coat collection just keeps growing and I'm loving it 🙂

  • What a cute post. I usually breeze by post about outfits but this made me want to take my time to read and look at everything. Maybe it's the list obsessed person in me lol.

    The Side Eye

    • That makes me so happy to hear! It was a bit of a different post for me to write so I'm really glad you liked it 🙂

      PS, I'm list obsessed too! 😉

  • Stunning pics. I like the one about not worrying about sizes. I remember when I was a size 8/10, and if I needed a bigger size I wouldn't buy it. Ridiculous. Really ridiculous!! Xx

    ♥ Carly's Beauty Blog ♥

  • You look so pretty in this outfit. and I agree with your points about fashion. ave a lovely day.

  • Completely agree with everything you said! Stripes and oversized clothes are my things, I love how I can be comfortable yet look good with the baggy things. I don't really follow fashion, I just wear whatever I think looks good whether it is a trend or not, I don't really care 🙂

    Ela BellaWorld

    • That's how I am now as well, it feels good to just wear whatever I want 🙂

  • What a lovely post 🙂
    I loved to read it and nod with every sentence 🙂 Well, apart for the stripes.
    Somehow I do not feel right in any horisontal stripes at all :/ Well but there are plenty other
    styles out what I love so I am fine to skip the horisontal stripes 🙂

    You have a lovely blog:)


  • ADORE this outfit Julia, you look Parisian chic there!

    I agree with most of your points, especially #2 (MAJOR stripe lover here), #3 (need to remind myself the next time I spot a pair of boyfriend jeans that I don't have the legs to rock them…either that or I go up a size), #14 (also need to remind myself of this the next time I shop) & #15 (convinced myself for years that I never look good in shorts before buying/being convinced into buying a pair of them recently).

    • Wow thanks Shell, I don't think anyone has ever said I look Parisian chic before!

      I constantly remind myself to just go by the fit when it comes to clothes, sometimes it can be hard but in the long run I think it's so worth it.

  • This post was so incredible babe! I loved the entire concept around it. I also love your trench, so classic chic!

    Kierra | Lavishingg

    • Thanks Kierra! It makes me really happy to hear that you enjoyed this post, and the trench! 🙂

  • I have too many coats…and shoes….and dresses… If I wore a different pair of shoes every day, I wouldn't wear them all! haha
    Great post!


  • I absolutely love this post hun, and totally with you too, overthinking it can kill an outfit but throwing on what you fancy always works out amazingly! You look gorgeous <3


    • Thanks Elle. I think in general overthinking tends to spoil everything, including outfits!

  • Lovely post! Ha, ha… you are right with the stripes! I have several pieces in my wardrobe… dresses, t-shirts, tops etc.
    Meet My Lovely World

    • Me too, I keep telling myself not to buy more but I just can't seem to help myself. Lucky they're timeless!

  • Loved reading this post, I agree that you can never have enough shoes… or bags hahaha 😉 You look lovely, as always Julia!

    Thirteen Thoughts

  • These are great lessons! I love how you define the word "sale" haha. Your outfit is gorgeous and so is that historic house. You look amazing!

  • I love this look! Trench coats and breton stripes are my fave :)x

  • gorgeous in pastel!

  • I love this look! Trench coats and breton stripes are my fave :)x

  • All such true things! Especially you can never have enough shoes and bags 😉 You look lovely in these pictures!

    Loren | http://www.minkys.co.za

    • Thanks Loren, shoes and bags are definitely staples in my wardrobe 🙂

  • Look at how gorgeous you look – I love the photos, they're all absolutely beautiful and I love your outfit, it's just gorgeous!!! 🙂

    Love this post, it's always nice to see what people have learned a long the way! 🙂

    Layla xx


    • Wow thank you Layla! I swear every comment you leave just keeps getting sweeter and sweeter 🙂

  • what a lovely post my dear
    your style is so amazing and inspiring
    simply love it!
    lovely 🙂
    with love your AMELY ROSE

  • Such a great post! And I love this outfit. You can't go wrong with stripes and a trench!

    Ashleigh x

  • Such a lovely post to read! And you're definitely right, you can never have enough bags, shoes or coats !!


    Maija Lily Xx

    • Exactly! I doubt I'll ever hit a point where I think I have too many 😉

  • Great post! Definitely can relate, especially with #3…some clothes will just never pull off Tim Gunn


  • Loved reading this post so true! Such a perfect look love it



  • This outfit is so nice, I love your style!
    Could you do a post on how you take good photos for your blog as I'm really bad at it!

    • Thanks Olivia, and I can for sure do a post on that! 🙂

  • Love this post! So many truths that I've learned throughout the year. Trying a different style to refresh my style and look is definitely something I've been doing this season. Maybe because it's the warmer seasons, I'm more likely to bring out my unrestrained free-spirit haha!

    Anyway, great point that you made on not judging someone else if you don't like their outfit and just keep it to yourself.


    • Thank you! I feel like I'm constantly revising and refreshing my style and it's actually such a nice feeling!

  • Omgosh, yes too all of these!! I defs wanna do my take for when I turn 26 in October and come up with 26 things i've learned. Will credit you of course *kisses*