Funny thing, I was editing this post and getting it ready to be published when low and behold, the tech gods decided to curse me and somehow the entire post disappeared. The images, the text, everything was gone and it wasn’t coming back. Yep, my post where I was basically talking about how to be happier disappeared and left me a sad, anxious, overwhelmed, miserable little mess. The exact opposite of happy. Thanks Blogger.
In the wake of my tech nightmare I’ve actually felt more inspired this time around to re-write this post. So if your laptop just lost all your files, if you’re feeling stressed out or if you’re just generally wanting to feel a little happier, here are my top tips:
You can’t control everything and sometimes you can’t control anything but I think embracing that is kind of the point of life? Sometimes you’ll feel lost or sometimes you’ll lose a blog post right before you were going to publish it…let go of the need to control everything and just go with the flow. Once you do that, things don’t tend to seem so tough.
2. Make exciting plans.
Maybe it’s to see a new movie, or maybe it’s that you book a trip somewhere far away (can I buy a one way ticket to Hogwarts please?). Planning something that excited me is one of the easiest and quickest ways to make me feel happier.
From what I’ve observed about myself and others around me, I think most of us carry around a lot of unnecessary guilt and it really weighs you down. Think about whatever it is that’s making you feel guilty and seriously consider whether it’s worth your time or energy, chances are that it isn’t.
This goes along with the guilt thing a little but basically life is short, eat the cupcake. If someone told me I was going to die tomorrow the last thing I would be doing is reaching for the brussels sprouts…
My mum is reading this and smiling, I know it. She’s such a big advocator of spending time outside and she definitely has a point because staying cooped up inside all day gives me massive cabin fever. Fresh air, mother nature and all of that jazz, embrace it.
Some people cheer themselves up by watching comedies but personally that tactic just depresses me, I just don’t enjoy watching other people being happy while I’m sad. Horror movies? Now those cheer me up. Everyone’s (short) lives suck in horror films and people’s insides end up on their outsides and it’s not pretty, so in comparison my problems never seem so bad! Call me crazy, but it works.
Appreciate your life, from the teeny tiny things to the big things. Appreciate everything from your Netflix subscription to your ability to vote, to your access to an education.
Forgiving people if they’ve upset me isn’t my first instinct because I’m usually too angry or stubborn. The problem with not forgiving people is that it makes you hold on to anger and anger is like a bomb that fires you up from the inside and sucks away your happiness like a Dementor sucks out your soul in Harry Potter. I really need to work on this one but I know that forgiving people alleviates a lot of emotional stress on yourself, the faster I can solve whatever problem I have with someone, the faster I can feel happier and less drained.