If you read that and thought “What do you mean, I’m not worrying about anything?” then congratulations, I envy you (and you’re also probably in the minority.) For everyone else out there, I feel your pain.
As a chronic over-worrier, sometimes my life gets overwhelming and it’s not even that something bad has happened, it’s just that I focus too much on the negatives instead of the positives and it all ends up feeling a bit like life is punching me in the face. Instead of throwing myself a pity party (even though it’s tempting) lately to keep myself sane I’ve been trying to focus on everything and anything positive and I’ve realised that I have a hell of a lot to be thankful for. It’s all about appreciating the little things, you know?
I tend to think that if we’re all more appreciative of the smaller things in life then it’s more difficult for the big bad things to bowl us over, because we always have something to be happy about regardless of anything bad that happens- if that makes sense?
So here are a few small things to be thankful for. Nothing special, nothing ground-breaking, nothing that will necessarily knock your socks off, but teeny little things to be happy about. You add up all those teeny tiny things and all of a sudden they amount to you having a pretty damn good day.
Good weather in Melbourne? Does that even exist?! It’s rare, but it’s there. If you’re lucky enough to live somewhere with a perfect climate then relish it, but otherwise soak up those moments when you look outside and the weather makes you smile. Sometimes it’s sunny outside and that genuinely makes me excited about the day (partly because I’m always freezing) but sometimes it’s pouring rain and I’m inside under blankets with a hot chocolate and nothing makes me happier.
This might be a weird one but appreciate your home, or your bedroom, or wherever it is that you can plant yourself and just relax.
When I’m out and about I find I can get tense really easily but then I just come home, hop into pyjamas (which I live in 99% of the time) and I get a real sense of relief and comfort just being home, safe and warm and in a space where I can virtually do whatever I want to.
Maybe it’s because I’m quite introverted but I enjoy my own space so much. Like I said, it’s all about the little things for me.
I once heard that apparently we’re all supposed to strive for a permanent even ground between happy and sad, which means that you’re never really upset or depressed but you also wouldn’t get ecstatic about anything either, theoretically. Call me crazy, but I’d rather feel really sad (within reason) if it means that I also get to feel really, jumping on the walls happy. I think it’s only by going through the bad times that you fully appreciate the good times. I know that in my own life I look back on some of the toughest times I’ve ever had and it just makes me so so happy with where I’m at right now, all of sudden I appreciate everything I have now and I’m relieved I’m not back in that negative space like I used to be.
So the next time you’re feeling down, it sounds a bit twisted but try and appreciate the fact that there’s an up-side coming soon and when it does come, you’re really going to relish it.
Underrated! I’m sorry but I do wake up grumpy sometimes, I just do, that’s why I always try to go to sleep in a good mood (to increase my chances of waking up in that same mood).
If you do wake up in a good mood, treat that like a prize because if I wake up in a bad mood it really does throw my entire day off. In a similar vein, appreciate those mornings when you can get a little extra sleep, when you actually have time to slow down and make your breakfast or maybe read a bit of your favourite book or watch your favourite TV show. Those slow, relaxed mornings are few and far between for me but oh how I appreciate them.
If I’ve learned one thing in my 22 years it’s that I need to not let life overwhelm me so much. Most of the things I worry about would probably rate a 1 on a 0-100 scale of importance, so I really need to let go, go with the flow a lot little more and just value all of the little things in my life that I have to be happy about and focus on that.
Focus on the positives, forget the negatives (aka my new life mantra). All easier said than done, I know, but I’m working on it.