In 2016 I often felt lost, like I didn’t know my purpose or where I was going. It sort of felt like a discovery year or a ‘floating’ year for me because I was constantly questioning what I wanted and where I wanted my life to go. Did that feel good? Most of the time no, so I knew I wanted to make sure 2017 would be different.
I mentioned in my ‘Why A New Year Shouldn’t Mean A New You’ post that I’ll probably never be the type of person that sets new year’s resolutions, but I have been re-assessing where I am vs. where I want to be and I’ve realised that half the reason I stalled on my goals in 2016 was because I wasn’t going about achieving them the right way. (I also procrastinate….it’s a downfall. I’m working on it.)
This is more than half the battle, I guarantee you. I tend to be a glass half empty person (yep, I’m one of those people) and it sounds simple but I’ve realised that if you genuinely don’t believe you can achieve something and you keep saying it out loud, you’re manifesting all of that negativity and nope, you won’t reach any of those goals because your head’s not in it. If you think you’re going to get your new dream job you won’t get it tomorrow just because you thought positively about it, but there’s plenty of research out there to prove that if you think very clearly about what it is you want and you actually believe you can get there, you’re paving the way to get those things and manifesting that, day by day.
Break them down.
We all have those huge scary goals that loom over us- they feel unachievable because they’re so big but you want to achieve them exactly because of that. To take things down a notch, look at your huge goals and break them down into smaller goals or even tasks that feel a little (or a lot) less scary. If you look at a small task you’ve made and it intimidates you, it’s too big- go smaller!
So say your big goal is to move to America. Make one of your smaller goals to research flights and another goal to research travel visas and different housing options etc. Break it down, it soothes the soul.
Our thoughts change like waves so unless you have a damn good memory the chances are you’re going to forget the ins and outs of exactly what you want. Write your goals in a journal, a word document, a scrap piece of paper or in the ‘Notes’ app on your phone- just take 10 minutes and actually write everything down as clearly and specifically as you can so that you can see them in front of you and look back on them whenever you need to.
If it takes you 6 months to achieve a tiny goal then that’s probably not too productive, so set yourself a time frame for when to complete each small goal. Remember to be realistic as well, especially if you already struggle reaching a nice work/life balance.
What you do can be tiny (and I mean tiny). So going with the example of the goal of wanting to move to America, if one of your small goals is to research flights then maybe one day you pull up some flight websites and another day you look at prices and another day you email a travel agent. There are 365 days in a year so even if you only do something tiny every day, imagine how much you’d get done by the end of the year as opposed to leaving everything to December and then panicking…
Just because you’ve written something down or planned a goal in January, don’t feel bad if you want to change your goals by March. We change, our perspectives change and our goals change along with it all and I think that’s fine. Don’t bother working toward goals you don’t really want because if you do, you won’t care when you reach them anyway.
Do you have any tips for achieving your goals?