Let’s just start this post off by saying that how you are right now, right this second is perfecto. Too cheesy? You bet, but I don’t want this post to come off like I’m a pushy stranger over the internet giving you unwarranted ‘life’ tips when I don’t really have a clue about you or your life. That’s why I only publish these kinds of posts when I genuinely think that what I have to say could positively contribute to someone else’s life.
Being a ‘better’ you is a pretty vague statement, agreed? Everyone has their areas they want to improve on (to be honest I could probably improve in every area so no judgement here) but a lot of the world just ignores or avoids the things they need to improve on. So often people make themselves ridiculously busy, just so that they don’t have to deal with or even remember the things that stress them or the changes they want to make in their lives. “Too busy” is a beautiful reason to avoid things.
In 2016 I did a crap load lot of reflection and in 2017 I’m all about evolving into the 2.0 version of myself. So based off certain patterns that I’ve noticed with myself and those around me, here are 3 (relatively) easy ways to be a better version of you.
Don’t water down your beliefs.
I’m like a seesaw with this one because sometimes I’m great at expressing my own opinions but then there are other times where I feel like for whatever reason, I have to hide how I really feel about something. Maybe it’s because I’m worried I’ll offend or insult someone, or maybe I’m just in a group of loud, over-bearing people and I’m too intimated to speak up for fear that they’ll overpower me and make me feel small. It happened to me a lot in high school and this is something that as I’m getting older frustrates me more and more.
To be more true to yourself and your believes, respect yourself enough to speak up and contribute your opinions to any given situation or conversation. I’m not saying you should become one of the over-bearing people who shout their opinions from the rooftops like they’re gospel, but don’t feel intimated or embarrassed to talk about whatever it is you believe- your thoughts are just as valid as the next person’s. I have to constantly remind myself of this, but you’re not doing yourself or anyone else any favours by not sharing your beliefs and opinions- you’re just hiding parts of yourself that make you, you.
So of course be mindful of other people’s feelings and all that jazz, but don’t ever feel too intimated to speak up.
I think being able to share your opinions and beliefs is great. The thing is, even if you think you know what the truth about something is and you wholeheartedly believe it, in the end it’s actually only your version of the truth, and someone else may feel completely different.
Have you ever noticed that no two people ever end up telling the exact same version of a story? Or have you ever had someone tell you something shocking or nasty and then follow it up with “…but I’m just giving my opinion!” because I sure as hell have and it’s extremely off-putting.
Everyone has their own truth, you have yours but that doesn’t make it the only truth and if you remember and accept that then I think everything becomes a whole lot easier. Friendships are easier, relationships are easier, talking to people with completely different beliefs becomes easier. Honestly I think everything becomes easier and you become much more of an open-minded person once you realise that your truth is not necessarily someone else’s.
Do you have any self improvement tips?