How To Tame Unruly Hair

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You either have easy to manage hair, or you don’t. My hair used to be naturally curly but now it’s mainly just wavy which means that sometimes it’s quite curly and other times a little straighter but always knotty. When I was little my Mum and Dad would take turns combing my hair and they’d have to hold my head still while they combed because the knots were so tough. ‘Bird’s nest’ I believe was the term used to describe my hair- you got a good visual of that in your head? Nowadays I try to be really careful with my hair but even if I’m super gentle I still find a lot of my hair ends up on my hairbrush (let’s just say I’m lucky that my hair grows really quickly.) If you can relate, here are some ways to tame that unruly hair and make it more manageable:


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Comb your hair before and while in the shower. 

Confession time. Sometimes my hair used to get so knotty that after combing for about 15 minutes I’d just give up and leave it all tangled out of frustration. Oops.

So if like me your hair is the Mother of Knots (gotta love a random GoT reference) and you dread the days when you have to wash and brush your hair, try combing your hair before you even hop in the shower to save time and effort later. For an extra detangling kick, take your favourite detangling brush in your shower with you as well and brush your hair after you put on your conditioner but before you rinse. This takes an extra few minutes max and it saves me so much hassle.
I’d recommend? I’ve recently been loving using the *Tangle Tonic Brush. 
Nope, not my regular Tangle Teezer, the Tangle Tonic (I know, confusing). It’s been nice and gentle on my locks while still removing all my knots with minimal effort and minimal hair fall out. I’m usually pretty faithful to my trusty Tangle Teezer but I prefer using the Tangle Tonic brush for in the shower because with the obvious ‘slip’ factor from the running water, the longer handle of the Tangle Tonic means I can get a stronger grip and comb more easily. If you’re after a new detangling brush and if you have longer hair especially then I’d definitely recommend you try this out, especially if you’re after something that’s very affordable.


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Turn your conditioner into a leave in mask. 

I’m obviously no hair specialist but I have done a lot of trial and error with my own hair and conditioner in particular (aka I tried not using it for 2 months…) and now I’ve found what works a gem for me. To help make your hair softer and easier to comb, try coating the ends of your hair with a rich conditioner while you’re in the shower, leave it for a few minutes and then rinse. Waiting just a few minutes seems to make the conditioner act like more a nourishing mask and I find that when I do this my hair is a lot smoother and it’s less resistant when I go to comb it later. Also, the richer and more moisturising your conditioner is, the softer and silkier your hair feels when you rinse.

Re-think your hairstyle before you sleep. 

Wait, a hairstyle before you sleep? I promise there’s a method to my madness.
I used to love sleeping with my hair out but I’d head to bed with wavy hair and end up waking up with hair that closely resembled the hair of Albert Einstein if you catch my drift. I must move my head around enough while I’m sleeping that my hair just knots itself and frizzes into a mess. If this happens to you as well, try either putting your hair in a bun or loose plaits before you sleep. I find if I do either of these then my hair doesn’t really have an opportunity to tangle up during the night, so when I go to style it in the morning it’s much more manageable because it’s basically how I left it before I went to sleep. Although this isn’t a great trick if you’re someone who likes straight hair, it does save you a few minutes if you want wavy or curly hair in the morning!

Is your hair super manageable or do you sometimes struggle as well?
*Gifted by AMR Hair & Beauty for review purposes. I don’t ever review anything I don’t genuinely like and all opinions are always my own and they always will be!

  • These are such good tips! I have really frizzy hair naturally so I've developed my own strategy over the years (out of desperation) about how to tame it, ahaha. I love the conditioner/mask tip– that definitely makes sense. I tend to always use a leave-in conditioner myself. 🙂 Lovely post!
    Julia | Julia in Bluhm

    • haha I love how you added the 'out of desperation' part, that's how I was with bloody knots! Must try a good leave in conditioner as well, thanks Julia 🙂

  • Firstly. love that main photo shot! 🙂 Secondly, I like the price of that brush – it looks like it's really expensive, so I was a bit shocked when I saw how inexpensive it was.
    As for my hair – I find I have to constantly change my shampoo as it seems like my hair gets used to it and then it doesn't work well any more or irritates my scalp. For the last half year I've switched to using a hair treatment or hair mask leaving it on for a few minutes instead of using conditioner and I've found that helps with knots too. Truth be told I have found the original tangle teaser to be a godsend to me as my hair always used to be knotty but that tangle tonic brush looks like pretty and a bargain to try, especially as you said, in the shower with the longer handle.

    • Thanks so much Phoebe!

      I know it's really good isn't it? I think the tangle tonic definitely looks more expensive than it is as well which is really great. I still love the tangle teezer as well that'll always hold a special place in my haircare heart, but I definitely think give the tangle tonic a try if you're wanting something to use in the shower! One of each is super handy 😉

  • These are great tips Julia! Although my hair doesn't usually get tangled when I woke up 🙂

    PS. Have a nice day!

  • Oooh – I love this post as I always battle with my hair! It really does it's own thing and have started using masks and oils too which is nice as it really does help!

    You know I love your posts and loving the whole theme and photography – everything just keeps getting better and better and I cannot wait to see what you do! 🙂

    Layla xx

    • Ooo I really want to start using some masks on my hair as well, I don't know if oils will work for me though because my hair already gets oily pretty quickly!

      Seriously thank you so much Layla, your comments on my blog and photography literally make me smile so much! Ahhh thanks for always being so lovely 🙂 x

  • Girl your hair is a total beaut!! My hair is incredibly knotty, I really need to be following these tips haha!


  • Your first pic is amazing, love it. Great tips as always lovely. I love my Tangle Teazer, it's made such a difference to my hair x

    Tiffany Tales | Lifestyle & Beauty 

    • Ah thanks Tiffany, I was a little torn about whether or not I loved or hated the first photo so thank you! haha

  • I find combing my hair right before the shower makes a huge difference in how my hair looks and feels. My hair is supremely tangled all the time so it is such a chore though, need to check out that new brush. Thanks for sharing x

    ALittleKiran | Bloglovin

    • It does make a huge difference doesn't it? Glad I'm not the only one with ridiculously knotty hair…

  • These are some amazing tips, my hair is always so frizzy and crazy and I definitely apply the last two tips on a regular basis. i should definitely try brushing my hair in the shower, such a great tip. thanks for sharing!

    xx Melis

    • It's something that really helps me when my hair is crazy knotty so hopefully it works for you as well 🙂

  • There are some really good tips here! I struggle with tangled hair a lot, so I must try some of these!xx

    Hannah | luxuryblush

    • Thanks Hannah, let me know how they work for you! 🙂

  • I have super tangly hair. Definitely the Mother of Knots over here lol. Brushing my hair before I shower helps a TON! Love these tips 🙂
    Nida | Caked To The Nines

    • haha welcome to the knotty club? Glad you found this helpful Nida 🙂

  • Great tips, I have really unruly thick hair! x
    A Blushing Beauty Blog

  • I have very thick tangley hair and noticed such a difference when I brush my hair before going in the shower.. I hate brushing my hair because it makes it so frizzy.. so only do it once a week before I wash it.. probs bad i don't do it more often haha


    • I hate brushing too (but that's just because I'm lazy haha) but yeah I really notice a difference when I do brush regularly! It's so simple yet sometimes I'm still so lazy…

  • Oh that tangle tamer looks cool. I do have easy mange hair. My hair is neither curly or straight. It is also not wavy. Wavy hair is lose semi uniform waves that fall away from the head. Nope don't have that either. I have sporadic kinks in my hair that cling to my head i.e. coughlicky hair. Straightish hair with lots kinks in it and VERY knotty. It's great.

    I will have to test out some of these techniques.

    Allie of ALLIENYC

    • Well I hope some of these tips work for you then Alicia 🙂

  • My hair sounds so similar to yours – it's impossible to tame! But I'd definitely agree with brushing it before washing it. If I forget that, then it's a nightmare to get it tangle-free

    Steph –

  • Great tips thanks for sharing them and this brush looks amazing!

    Gemma x

  • Having long hair has always been a dream for me. I have always tried various ways in order to keep my hair long. After watching this tutorial I have learnt how to properly tame your hair.

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  • I've heard that it's not good to brush your hair in the shower because your pores are open so it'll pull out more hair!! So be careful with that.. I comb through my hair with my fingers when I'm in the shower just to de-tangle it but I avoid using a brush..

    I've recently started using a blow dryer which was a big no-no for me since I can easily get frizzy hair, but I leave it on a cool setting and low blast and I only dry it half way and it's been giving soft big curls/waves! I split my hair in two sections and twist them and let it finish air drying…