As a little disclaimer here, I just want to say that with pretty much every single ‘tips’ type of post that I publish, usually whatever I’ve chosen to write about directly pertains to something I’m trying to work on myself. So I’m writing about how to stop comparing yourself to others? Surprise surprise, I’m struggling with that right now. At the moment, when I look through my Instagram feed I feel deflated because I can’t seem to switch off that part of my brain that’s making me compare myself and my own situations to other people’s. I needed a healthy dose of reality and so with that, here are 3 ways to stop the comparison cycle:
Call me crazy but when I need to stop any kind of pity party I’m throwing myself, I watch a show called “I Survived.” For anyone that doesn’t know, it’s basically a show filled with first-person accounts of how people survived some kind of deadly situation. If I’m comparing my blog content to someone else’s and feeling crappy, I watch that show and it’s like life is giving me a slap in the face. That person on “I Survived” got attacked by a serial killer and lived? Yeah, my content worries aren’t so worrying anymore and I’m all of a sudden very thankful for my current life, to the point where it feels ridiculous to not be overwhelmed with happiness about all the little things I take for granted. You may not be wired the same as me but I’d say that one of the fastest ways to stop comparing yourself is to expose yourself to content that makes you continuously appreciative of everything you have in life. You don’t like your nose? Some people are born without noses buddy.
I’ve found that when I’m comparing myself a lot and feeling bad afterwards, it’s probably because subconsciously I’m seeing an aspect of someone else or someone else’s life that I’d like to have myself. So say you tend to heavily compare your job to another person’s, think really carefully about what it is about that other person’s job that’s different to your own. Is it that they get paid more? Maybe they have better hours, are in a more creative job or just seem to be happier at work than you? Rather than dwelling and just continuously feeling shitty, try spending your time working toward what it is that you’re envying/comparing because that’s what you’re after. If you’re going to spend a lot of time and energy doing comparisons, you may as well take that same time and energy and do something productive.
One easy way to discourage yourself from doing constant comparisons is to realise and remember that we’re all doing it, we’re all humans just wasting our time comparing ourselves to other humans when we could be doing so many other things. When you’re struggling with something it’s easy to think that whatever you’re going through is singular to you, like no one else out there could possibly feel the same way but just remember, you’re not that unique. What I mean by that is that if you’re struggling with comparing yourself with another person for example, remember that the person in that photo is most probably looking to someone else and comparing themselves as well. It’s a small comfort, but at least we can all take some comfort in knowing that we’re not alone and I think if we remember that, it’s much easier to stop the cycle.