Why You Should Strive To Make Mistakes

A New Take On Making Mistakes

I think when I have kids (if I have kids and not just countless cats…) then I’m going to drill into them that perfectionism is the greatest lie on earth. I’m going to tell them that there is no way to be ‘perfect’ in life and they shouldn’t be afraid to make mistakes.

When I was in high school, my mum never had to tell me to study, she actually tried to get me to not study (bitch tried to tempt me with Harry Potter films). I would stay up till the wee hours of the morning doing school work to make sure I’d ace whatever test/SAC/exam I had. I didn’t need motivation from anyone or anything else, I had plenty of motivation that lay in:

-Not wanting to fail my test/SAC/exam

-Not wanting to make my teachers feel like they’d done a bad job teaching me (not even kidding with this one)

-My ever-fuelling fear of making a mistake

why you should want to make mistakes

I never stopped to think about this when I was at school because I was so scared of ‘failing.’ I’ve noticed this ended up being a trend in my life as well, where I basically pick my life moves based on avoiding anything that could even slightly be interpreted as a mistake. Well, after writing this post on fear I am well and truly getting over that.


why-you-should-strive-to-make-mistakesA lot of us are brought up believing that mistakes are bad and should be avoided at all costs. You weren’t praised if you made a mistake doing something and a mistake was certainly not seen as a good thing.You’re supposed to learn from your mistakes and move on, sure, but if you can not make them in the first place then that’s even better.


Except, maybe we’re not thinking of mistakes the right way?

In acting, when you film a ‘Take’ you perform to the best of your ability and then if you muddle up the words or something like that happens then they’ll call ‘Take 2’ and you try it again. It’s a second go at things if you will, how revolutionary. (<-Sidenote: all I see is Meryl Streep in Devil Wears Prada with that line).

The word ‘mistake’ traditionally implies that you’ve done something wrong or that you’ve made some kind of error, right? Now I may be reading into this too much but…why can’t we all just see mistakes as ‘mis-Takes.’ ‘Takes’ in life rather than in acting, that we’re re-doing. Nothing to feel bad about, certainly nothing to avoid, nothing to feel ashamed or guilty or sorry for, you’re just re-doing your take in whatever situation and that’s that. So if you didn’t do your best in an interview for a new job and you lost the job, rather than beating yourself up over the massive mistake you made, go for another take. Apply to another interview and go from there. Most importantly, don’t feel bad, and don’t dwell.

If everyone has already been thinking of ‘mistakes’ like this well then I’m going to feel real damn stupid. I mean when I first started thinking of mistakes as ‘mis-takes’, it felt like I had a massive eureka moment. Why have I been trying to get everything right on Take 1 when in life, there’s no limit to how many times I can try something before I succeed? It’s like I think if I don’t get something ‘right’ on the first try then that something must not be in the cards for me.

As long as what you’re doing isn’t…you know, murdering someone, then I think we should all be encouraged to make mistakes. Treat them like separate ‘takes’ and that’s it, not like something you’ve done wrong.


So here’s to mistakes, may we make them, may we learn from them, and may we stop treating them like they’re so bad.

  • What a fantastic post! I love your perspective on mistakes, to not look at them in a negative light but rather something that’s just a part of life! I’ve always been a bit of a perfectionist so I used to give myself a really hard time whenever I failed something, but as I got older I’ve realized that failing is inevitable – it happens to all of us because no one is perfect. Now I try to look as mistakes and failures as life lessons, the more I make the wiser I get! 😉

    Jenny | Geeky Posh

    • The Sunday Mode

      Thanks Jenny! That’s such a good way to look at mistakes and actually, thinking of them as something that’s inevitable is really clever!

  • You’re right, it’s definitely just part of life. Making mistakes are such a great way of learning too! I’ve learned much more in life from the mistakes I’ve made vs the successes I’ve had. Great post!

    -Emily http://www.coatandcoffee.com

    • The Sunday Mode

      Same here Emily, and there’s that whole saying as well which is so true, you know the one that says that you always end up regretting the things you didn’t do, not the things you did. And so much of the time fear of making a mistake is what can hold you back from doing something in the first place!

  • I used to be the same in school and uni – I was always so afraid that I would fail my test I studied so hard it was crazy at some point. I treated failing as the end of the world. You’re so right that we shouldn’t treat mistakes as something so bad. I’m still working on it myself but I think getting a job few years ago and working in a team really made me realize that making a mistake is not that big of a deal – you just try again and again and nobody will murder you because you made it 😉
    Awesome post! 🙂

    Roksana | http://www.beatsofbeauty.com

    • The Sunday Mode

      Yes! Glad someone can relate to the whole study like a crazy woman thing. Your comment made me laugh out loud as well because I can relate, like why did/do I sometimes think that making a mistake is just the worst thing in the world? You’re so right, it’s not like someone is actually going to murder you for it!

  • I think that’s a great way of looking at it – that you have countless opportunities to succeed and “get it right” not just one and if things don’t work out then you’re a massive failure. Life is all about picking yourself back up and learning and growing from your mistakes. So often when something bad happens, we don’t get that job we want or whatever, it can actually lead to something better happening that we’re just as happy with, so making mistakes or something not going the way you hoped it would isn’t always the end of the world.


    • The Sunday Mode

      Exactly, and when you think of it logically, assuming that you can get everything ‘right’ in one shot just seems so damn unrealistic.

  • Kizzy Von Doll

    Completely agree with all of this!! Making mistakes is a great way of learning and challenging ourselves. I think some mistakes are worth skipping, but for the most part making a mistake is great. We learn strength and determination through falling down, if everything is handed to us, we learn nothing really. Thanks so much for the comment, I’ll have to see the movie now, the soundtrack is fab!! Hope you have a sweet day xx

  • I honestly think making mistakes is a good thing – you learn from them and can improve upon them. It’s all a learning experience! 🙂 Tania Michele xx

    • The Sunday Mode

      Definitely, when everything is smooth sailing (although that can be a pretty damn awesome feeling) you don’t normally learn anything.

  • Lauren Oliver

    Loved, loved, loved this post! I couldn’t agree with you more. Our society is so fixated on perfection, that it’s so easy to get down on yourself when you feel as if you haven’t achieved that. But I loved your reference to “takes” in acting, in how you can have multiple takes – which is not a bad thing!


    • The Sunday Mode

      Thanks Lauren! I’m really happy you liked this post (and that you didn’t think I was nuts with my whole ‘takes’ thing) 😉

  • Dominique

    Such a thought provoking post and couldn’t agree with your points. We all have to make mistakes from time to time and the silver lining is we always learn from them xx


    • The Sunday Mode

      Thank you Dominique!

  • This is so interesting. I agree, it’s so weird how we think of making a ‘mistake’ as something so negative, when really it’s like we’re getting another chance at doing something. I think I learn more from making mistakes rather than getting it right at the first time! Great post x


    • The Sunday Mode

      Exactly, it’s so bizarre! When really when we make a mistake we should just be happy that we get another chance to try again, because a lot of the time we do.

  • Yes, yes and yes. Couldn’t agree more with this post, Julia! Kicking ourselves and lamenting every poor decision and/or mistake we make, only leads to more of them. Treating ourselves more kindly and accepting mistakes are part of life is the only way to move forwards in a positive direction! Lovely post to read babe 🙂

    Gabrielle | A Glass Of Ice x

    • The Sunday Mode

      Thanks Gabrielle! x

  • phoebe

    A really inspiring post! I love your well thought out ideas:) What you have written really resonates with me.
    We can mentally beat ourselves up so much with what is really a natural process of learning in life. I remember hearing someone talk about what their family did each dinner time – which was talk about what mistake they had made that day and what they learned from it. The parents did it daily to encourage their kids not to be afraid of making mistakes and focusing on what they had actually learned from them – i don’t know if that’s the answer as it may cause a whole new set of issues (like trying to make a mistake to report back to the table) but I can see where they were trying to go with it.

    • The Sunday Mode

      You’re exactly right, I love how you said it’s a natural part of life. I really like thinking about it that way. Oh that’s a really cool idea actually, I know what you mean about how it could go wrong but on a smaller scale, maybe you could do something where at the end of the week you just reflect yourself on what mistakes you’ve made yourself and what you’ve learned from them? That could work!

  • I actually love this post as I believe that we all need to make mistakes as it’s natural for us to grow from everything we go through and become better people, learning how to deal with things etc.

    A great post and I love the way you’ve written this as it connects on so many levels! 🙂

    Layla xx


    • The Sunday Mode

      Yeah! When I really think about it, it’s only through the mistakes I’ve made that I’ve become a better, more understanding, evolved person.

      So glad you liked this post! 🙂 x

  • This is such a great and important post! Even though I now understand that perfection doesn’t exist, I still struggle sometimes with my huge fear of making mistakes. It’s in my nature, as it seems to be in yours, to want to do things well the first time… which of course, doesn’t always happens. That’s a lesson I’ll be teaching my kids (or countless cats) as well 🙂


    • The Sunday Mode

      I try to really steer away from my perfectionism but sometimes it does pull me in and I struggle as well. It’s exactly what you said though, there’s this innate thing in me that wants to get things ‘right’ on the first try- where that came from I will never know but I’m trying so hard to go against it!

  • Ive learnt SO much from making such stupid mistakes! Noones perfect!
    Cloe X http://clxelouise.co.uk

  • Your blog is one of my favorites to read and this post is exactly what I needed! You’ve just changed my whole mindset on how I think of mistakes. I love the idea of mis-Takes, that is so smart and something I’ll remember from now on.

    x Kara | http://karascloset.net/

    • The Sunday Mode

      Oh wow really? That’s so cool thanks Kara! I’m so happy I changed your mindset on mistakes as well, I wish I figured that all out sooner!

  • The Sunday Mode

    Couldn’t agree more. When I was growing up perfectionism was always seen as something good, whereas now it’s like a character flaw almost, in the sense that sometimes it’s better to just get things done and not worry about trying to get anything perfect. That’s something I’m learning more and more. I’d like to think the perfectionism is slowly getting weeded out generationally as well? If my kids are anything like me…well that’ll be interesting.

    Thank you for your lovely comment Elle, it really meant a lot 🙂

  • ashleigh fay

    I really love this post. So happy i came across it xx