The older I get, the more I realise that my expectations of adulthood from when I was a child were completely off. Why did I assume that I’d have my life sorted by the time I was in my 20’s? Why did I assume that I’d be mature in my 20’s? I just turned 24 and I can firmly say nope, none of that happened. All those damn movies I watched growing up have led me astray I tell you!
At the end of 2017, with the impending new year I found myself reflecting (as you do) and re-assessing my priorities. I looked at where I was in my life, where I wanted to be, and what I had to do to get from A to B. I hit this point where I realised I have to make certain changes if I want to live the life I imagined for myself. In 2018 I’ve already made so many changes that I feel like a different person. I’m not all the way there yet, but here’s how I started living the life I imagined:
I would love to say that I have some kind of a wonder tip for changing up your mindset, but I don’t. The truth is, you can’t really force someone to change the way they think about something. You can’t just force someone to believe that they can completely have the life they’ve imagined for themselves, if they just work on it and don’t give up. That has to come from within and be like a fire that fuels you.
If you’d have told me back in 2017 how positive I’d feel almost every day of 2018, I would have called you a damn liar. Actually probs not, I’m a Pisces so I probably would’ve just said something passive to your face and then gone home and cried a lot. Sad but true my friends, sad but true. My point is, as far as I can tell your mindset plays a massive role in everything you do. So if you’re not currently living the life you’ve imagined for yourself and if you’re nowhere near the person you want to be, you gotta shift that mindset girl (or guy). It has to come from within you to find that motivation and make that shift. So do what you gotta do, but change comes when you change up your mindset and how you see things and the world.
A Youtube video is what kicked this off for me. I watched some random video where someone (I can’t remember who) said they wrote down vision affirmations for who and how they wanted to be. She said she read them every day in the morning and her life changed. I was naturally sceptical but then I thought well, I may as well give it a go?
I think I read my affirmations out for two weeks straight before I started to believe them, you do sort of feel like a big liar at first. But the trick is, as best you can, read them and pretend like whatever you’ve written has already happened and you’re just affirming it. Read them out in the morning as well, because if you believe those things you wanted have already happened then you end up making choices throughout the day that lead you to actually achieving all of those things because you have that confidence (if that makes sense).
For example, one of my affirmations is ‘I am vibrant and energetic.’ So I read that in the morning and then I just feel better throughout the day, and I genuinely feel like picking foods that’ll keep me even more vibrant and energetic as well. In 2017, I felt sluggish and tired for a lot of it but for the past 3 months I feel like I’ve had more energy than I had in all of 2017
Try writing down 5 vision affirmations for your life and reading them every morning for at least two weeks. After two weeks, see if you’re any closer to that vision coming to fruition.
So like I was saying with the affirmations, if you’re believing that the things you want have already happened, that naturally informs the choices you make. Then inevitably, with those choices change starts occurring. For me as change starts occuring, for it to keep hapenning I have to find ways that make me love the change.
So say for example you set an affirmation that was “I make healthy choices.” You read that out every morning and then throughout the day it feels natural to make actual healthy choices. To stick with that and keep it going long term, don’t make torturous healthy choices. Nobody wants to have a plate full of kale for dinner (do they?!) and yeah it’s a healthy choice, but it’s bloody disgusting. So instead, you’d pick a meal that is super tasty and just happens to also be healthy. So you’re making a change, but still enjoying the change.
Everyone’s affirmations are different and that was obviously just an example, but you get what I mean. So while you’re making changes in your life, implement changes that you actually like and that you’re the most likely to stick with, rather than making everything feel torturous.
One of the things I’m working on this year is living in the moment more. A big part of that comes with not spending too much of my time waiting to reach that life I’ve imagined for myself. So if you are making changes, switching up your mindset and you’re doing all of these things to get yourself where you want to be; just breathe. Try not to get too caught up in the motion of it all and just enjoy yourself along the way because you’re still brilliant just as you are right now. I can’t remember who said it
(who am I kidding I know exactly who said it, it was totally Miley Cyrus in the Hannah Montana movie) but ‘life’s a climb, but the view is great.’ So don’t just wait for that view though, enjoy the climb.