The world is a judgemental place. The older I get, the more I realise a lot of people’s minds aren’t as adaptable and ready for change as I think they are. I’ve heard different snippets of advice throughout my life, some of which is downright unhelpful but other pieces click with me. Someone can just say one phrase to you or a single sentence and suddenly it feels like everything makes sense. That doesn’t happen to me very often, but when it does it’s bloody magnificent. Some of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever heard, to be super specific, weren’t even given to me. Sometimes I’ll be watching TV and I’ll hear advice that really strongly resonates with me. I mean, you really can soak up advice anywhere if you’re receptive and open to it.
So if you are open to it, here are some of the best pieces of advice I’ve either heard, or been given:
‘Just stay on the bus’
My mum relayed this one to me because it was something she heard that stuck with her, and it stuck with me too. I’ve got some big goals in my life, and we all know it’ll be a less than perfect journey and probably a really rocky road getting there, and that’s why I love this piece of advice.
No one seems to reach their goals in an “Oh, well that was easy” kind of way. Just stay on the bus applies to any goal, because although in the back of our minds we kind of all know that we’re going to take hits on the way to reaching our goals, that doesn’t mean that with each hit you don’t get completely knocked down and completely dejected. With each hit maybe you feel like you just want to give up; like you’ll never get there. Just stay on the bus. No matter what happens, no matter how low you feel, no matter how much you feel like you’ll never get there…just stay on the bus, you’ll get there eventually.
No idea where this quote started from but I heard it from Boy George…so, there’s that. As a former perfectionist (I say former because it’s a habit I hate and constantly work to break), I can attest that perfectionism is awful and not a quality to be admired. It’s shit. Nothing more eloquent than that, it’s just shit.
It doesn’t make you feel good because you can never get things perfect no matter how hard you try. Not to mention one of the worst things about perfectionism is that it stops you from doing things. You hesitate, you wait, you spend too much time worrying about how to get things right and trying to get things perfect that you don’t actually end up getting done what you set out to achieve. But, perfection is the enemy of completion. Things don’t have to be perfect, ideas don’t have to be perfect, you don’t have to be your version of perfect; just get out there and do things.
Correct me if I’m wrong, but I believe this is actually a Jewish phrase/saying
that I actually first heard from an episode of Grey’s Anatomy.
I think this phrase can be interpreted in a lot of different ways based on what’s going on in your life. For me, I tend to personalise. I can spend a lot of time dwelling on why things happen, wondering what I may have done wrong and wondering why the world is the way that it is. I notice so many aspects of the world that I think are just fundamentally flawed and I see so much sadness and injustice and hate in the world. And yeah okay I’m a Pisces so I’m extra sensitive to basically everything and things feel super heightened for me, but still. My point is, when I heard “the world needs fixing, and it’s our job to fix it,” it lit a fire in me.
Yeah, the world is really screwed up. Yeah, there are a LOT of things in this world that shouldn’t be left as they are. And yeah, blogging and fashion and makeup and all of that is fun but holy hell I don’t want to leave this world without making some kind of an impact.
Change is scary, and a lot of people will tell you that things can’t be done, or that they won’t happen because “that’s just how it’s always been” or “that’s just how it is.” Well, there are a lot of things that you can say that about. Awful atrocities that occurred in this world in the past were once the norm and if it wasn’t for people recognizing where things need fixing and working to fix them and make a change, then the world would never progress and we’d be stuck in a perpetual time loop where time progresses but we don’t as humans. So change it up, take a stand, make your mark. In the least god-complex’y way possible, the world needs fixing, and it’s our job to fix it.
What’s the best advice you’ve ever heard or been given?